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Erotic humiliation is the consensual use of psychological humiliation in a sexual context, whereby one person gains arousal or erotic excitement from the mixed and powerful emotions of being humiliated and demeaned, or of humiliating another. The humiliation need not be sexual in itself, as with many other sexual activities it is the feelings derived from it which are sought, regardless of the nature of the actual activity. It can be verbal or physical, and can be relatively private or public. Often it can become ritualized, and unlike some sexual variations it can also be easily carried out over a long distance or online. The distinction between humiliation and dominance in an activity such as erotic spanking is that the sought after effect is primarily the humiliation, the activity is just a means to that end. Image File history File links Circle-question. ... Consent within BDSM is an issue that attracts much attention in the field. ... A ritual is a set of actions, performed mainly for their symbolic value, which is prescribed by a religion or by the traditions of a community. ... Online means being connected to the Internet or another similar electronic network, like a bulletin board system. ... Erotic spanking can sometimes go hand in hand with other paraphilia, such as for erotic clothes or erotic humiliation. ...

Whilst mild or moderate humiliation is not an uncommon part of BDSM or other sexual roleplay, humiliation play can be taken to a point where it becomes considered edgeplay by most people, either due to its extreme nature or due to the controversial views on its psychological impact. This is a highly subjective issue, and depends greatly on context. Sexual roleplaying is the sexual behavior of playing some kind of character during a sexual encounter, in order to evoke a sexual fantasy in oneself and/or ones partner. ... In BDSM, edgeplay is a subjective term for types of sexual play that are on the edge of the traditional safe, sane and consensual creed. ...

Terminology and overview

The person being humiliated is often called a bottom, and the person who humiliates them is often called the top, or if female, sometimes humiliatrix. Other common names are slave or sub/submissive for the bottom, and master/mistress or dom/dominant for the top. This article is about the erotic activity. ... This article is about the erotic activity. ... Slave is a term often used in BDSM to connote a specific form of submissive. ... REDIRECT Domination & submission (BDSM) ... This article is about the word Master as used in BDSM. For other uses of the word, see Master. ... A dominatrix (from the Latin dominatrix, meaning a female ruler or mistress; plural dominatrices or dominatrixes) or mistress is a woman who takes the dominant role in bondage and discipline, domination and submission or sado-masochistic sexual practices, which are commonly abbreviated as BDSM. The male equivalent is Master. ... The word dominant has several possible meanings: In music theory, the dominant or dominant note (second most important) of a key is that which is a perfect fifth above the tonic; in just intonation the note whose pitch is 1. ...

Humiliation is not the same as domination as the devotee is not necessarily seeking to be ordered about. Humiliation comes into its own as a sexual force when the devotee seeks the humiliation over and above the means, for example when being spanked is primarily valued because of the belittlement involved. As such, it encompasses a range of paraphilia, in particular foot fetish or shoe fetish, body worship, spanking, bondage and most BDSM styles. It can be as basic as the desire to kiss and massage feet as a precursor to sex, or it can be complex, involving roleplay or public displays of subservience. It can also be for a set period of time (a "scene") or as an ongoing facet of a relationship. Domination and submission (also known as D&s, Ds or D/s) is a set of psychosexual behaviors, customs and rituals relating to the giving and accepting of dominance of one individual over another in an erotic or lifestyle context. ... Paraphilia (in Greek para παρά = besides and -philia φιλία = friendship)—in psychology and sexology, is a term that describes a family of persistent, intense fantasies, urges, or behaviors involving sexual arousal to nonhuman objects, pain or humiliation experienced by oneself or ones partner, or children or other nonconsenting individuals. ... Foot fetishism is a pronounced fetishistic sexual interest in human feet. ... Shoe fetishism, also known as retifism, involves being irrationally or abnormally fixated on shoes or other footwear to the extent it may interfere with sexual expression. ... Body worship is a very general term for the BDSM practice of one person physically reverencing a part of another persons body. ... Political cartoon from 1860 depicting Stephen A. Douglas receiving a traditional “over-the-knee” spanking from Columbia as Uncle Sam looks on approvingly. ... A model in bondage cuffs with a leg spreader In the context of BDSM, bondage involves people being tied up or otherwise restrained for pleasure. ... // A collar is a common symbol in BDSM. Female bottom in bondage with leather monoglove BDSM is any of a number of related patterns of human sexual behavior. ... In BDSM, a scene is a complete encounter. ...

Means of humiliation

Sexual humiliation is very open ended. Broadly it can be divided into verbal, and physical aspects. Verbal aspects might include:

• Verbal belittlement, such as "slave", "boy", "girl", "missy", "pet".
• Insults and verbal abuse, such as "fat", "ugly", "stupid", "worthless".
• Degrading references such as "slut", "tart", "bitch", "faggot" and "whore".
• Slighting of body parts or behaviors, such as disparaging or cruel references to breasts, facial appearance, genitalia or genital size, bottom, and slighting of mannerisms such as walking, responsiveness, standard of self-care.
• Having to ask permission for everyday activities such as toilet, or eating or spending money.
• Small breasts humiliation, where scorn is addressed towards the supposed inadequacy of the adult female's breasts or her inability to please a man (and by implication her essential worthlessness as a woman and her breasts becomes an object of play for the man).
• Small penis humiliation, where scorn is addressed towards the supposed inadequacy of the adult male's genitals or his inability to please a woman (and by implication his essential worthlessness as a man and his penis becomes an object of play for the woman).
• Forced repetition, such as being obliged to repeat back commands to confirm them.
• Forced flattery, such as agreeing that every decision that the dominant makes is wise, correct, and justifiable while additionally praising the dominants physical and personality traits.
• Mockery and ridicule.

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• Ejaculating, defecating, spitting, slapping or urinating on the bottom's body or, especially, the face.
• Performance of menial tasks or abusive workload such as cleaning the floors with a toothbrush.
• Frequent performance of passive/aggressive sexual services for the dominant, such as erotic massage, cunnilingus, analingus, or fellatio without expectations of reciprocal acts or intercourse.
• Detailed accountability and control (micro-management) as to time spent or activities done, including list of jobs to do, precise directions as to how the housework is to be performed, and exactly how to act and behave.
• Specific rituals and affectations to be adopted. This includes displays of subservience, such as lighting cigarettes, walking a pace behind the dominant, only speaking when spoken to, kneeling or prostrating in front of the dominant when expecting orders, eating only after others or on the floor, low status place to sleep, and a wide variety of body worship activities such as kissing and/or licking the dominant's feet, boots, buttocks, anus, vulva etc. to express acknowledgment, subservience, shame, or even positive emotions such as happiness or excitement.
• Suppressed Freedom of Movement. This may include never being able to leave the room in which the dominant is present without permission, and may be forbidden to leave the house or 'dungeon' in general for the duration of slavery or servitude.
• Detailed punishments for a variety of 'infractions' or misbehavior, such as having to stand in a corner facing a wall for several hours, flogging or whipping, reduced rations, or forced exercise.
• Roleplaying "lower status" beings such as animals (for example dog or horse) or babies (see human animal roleplay and adult baby play).
• Spanking, whipping, restraint or other BDSM activities such as cock and ball torture (CBT).
• Prohibitions or restrictions on clothing. For females a common example is being mandated to only wear revealing bikinis or lingerie. For men, this may include feminizing or cross dressing. Both sexes may be expected to go completely in the nude, with decorative objects such as collars, bands, tiaras, or cuffs being the only exceptions.
• Use of chastity belts or other means of erotic sexual denial.
• Wearing of external signs of "ownership" such as a collar.
• Having friends, family or strangers aware of or witnessing one's treatment (i.e.: public humiliation).
• Erotic objectification, where the bottom is cast in the role of an object, such as a footstool.
• Embarrassment.
• Forced Homosexuality
• Cuckoldry, taking on a third party lover to humiliate the bottom as an expression of the relationship of the top and the bottom.

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Sexual roleplaying may or may not involve humiliation. For example, one person might play the part of a dog because they enjoy being mock-forced into it and the top will emphasize the lowness of the bottom's status as an animal, whereas another person might play the role of the dog without any element of humiliation, simply as an expression of their inner animal or playful spirit. Sexual roleplaying is a sexual behavior between two or more people in which they take on erotic roles to carry out a sexual fantasy. ... Human animal roleplay (also called petplay, ponyplay or pup-play) is a form of erotic sexual role-play where one or more of the participants takes on the role of a real or imaginary animal in character, including appropriate mannerisms and behavior, and sometimes a partner will act as another...

Psychology of humiliation

Humiliation in general touches strong emotional buttons, the more so when it becomes sexualized. Because of this, consent and paradoxically a high degree of awareness and communication is needed, to ensure that the result is desirable rather than abusive. For example, a submissive may enjoy being insulted in some ways, but genuinely crushed and devastated if humiliated or insulted in other ways. Consent within BDSM is an issue that attracts much attention in the field. ...

Humiliation play is also connected to sexual fetishism, in that non-sexual activities may become sexualized by association with arousal, and also may be associated with exhibitionism in the sense of wanting others to witness (or being aroused by others witnessing) ones sexual degradation. Sexual fetishism, first described as such by Sigmund Freud though the concept and certainly the activity is quite ancient, is a form of paraphilia where the object of affection is a specific inanimate object or part of a persons body. ... An exhibitionist exposing himself at a soccer game. ...

For some people, activities such as name-calling are a way of achieving ego reduction or getting over sexual inhibitions. For example, between gay people, terms usually associated with homophobia may be used, such as "faggot". The concept of ego reduction occurs in several contexts. ... A sexual inhibition denotes a conservative attitude to or a reservation relating to specific sexual practises. ... A protest by The Westboro Baptist Church; a group identified by the Anti-Defamation League as virulently homophobic. ...

As with all sexual activities, some people have sexual fantasies about humiliation, and others actually undertake it as a lifestyle or in a scene. Sexual fantasies of humiliation are very common, but for most people remain a fantasy - they would have strong reservations about it being public, or engaged in with a partner for real, however erotic the idea may be. Others do explore humiliation with partners, and many people use online humiliation (where the humiliator and others are involved via the internet using chat, email, websites, etc.) as a compromise between exhibitionism and reality on the one hand, and safety and anonymity on the other. Hokusais The Dream of the Fishermans Wife is an artistic depiction of a sexual fantasy This article is about psychological fantasies. ... In BDSM, a scene is a complete encounter. ... Humiliation is literally the act of being made humble, or reduced in standing or prestige. ...

Online humiliation

Online humiliation is the desire to be seen in a sexually embarrassing context via the internet. It allows the submissive to seek fetish partners across the world, to send them embarrassing pictures or to submit to their demeaning instructions. The process can be conducted via chat and webcam, via email, via dating and contact websites, or even via online auctions where the person publicly bids for items that reveal their fetishes.

See also

• Erotic sexual denial
• Femdom
• Cuckolding
• BDSM
• Omorashi

Erotic sexual denial, also known as orgasm denial, is a sexual practice where a person is kept in the plateau phase of the human sexual response cycle for an extended length of time. ... Femdom, or female dominance, refers to BDSM activities where the dominant partner is female. ... A cuckold is a married man whose wife has sex with other men. ... // A collar is a common symbol in BDSM. Female bottom in bondage with leather monoglove BDSM is any of a number of related patterns of human sexual behavior. ... Omorashi is a form of sexual fetishism recognized predominantly in Japan, in which participants experience arousal from having a full bladder or a sexual attraction to someone else experiencing the discomfort of a full bladder. ...

References

External Links

• Tomatoes Can Be Torture (also see Part Two and Part Three).