Orgasm control (a.k.a. 'Extended Orgasm') is a sexual technique involving the active partner taking complete control over the passive partner's orgasm. The technique can be used by anybody regardless of sexual orientation. It has been suggested that Dry orgasm be merged into this article or section. ...

Typically, the active partner will give slow, gentle stimulation to the passive partner, to gradually bring them up to the point very high in the plateau phase where an orgasm is actually building, but will then slightly reduce the level of stimulation to just below that needed to actually trigger the orgasm itself. By carefully varying the intensity of stimulation, the passive partner is then kept in this highly-aroused state very close to orgasm for a short while, before being allowed to fall back just a little to recover for a few moments before the technique is then repeated. After a few repeats, the passive partner's urge to orgasm can become overwhelming, so for the most intense experience possible the passive partner's arms are may lightly restrained (by consent) to symbolically surrender control to the active partner by removing the means to effect the orgasm themselves (see Bondage). When the active partner eventually 'permits' the passive partner to orgasm, the orgasm itself maybe stronger than usual due to the increased tension and yearning that builds up during the extended stimulation. During the 1950s and 1960s, William H. Masters and Virginia E. Johnson conducted many important studies within the field of human sexuality. ... A model in bondage cuffs with a leg spreader In the context of BDSM, bondage involves people being tied up or otherwise restrained for pleasure. ...

The aim of orgasm control is to prolong the powerful sexual sensations that occur during the final build-up to orgasm. It is a form of negative feedback. The physical demands of being kept in this highly-excited state for a time can induce a very pleasurable, almost euphoric state in the passive partner. A caring active partner will also usually derive pleasure from witnessing his/her partner in such an excited state. Negative feedback (shortened to NFB) is a type of feedback in which the system responds in an opposite direction to the perturbation. ...

Orgasm control requires a high degree of skill on the part of the active partner, and enough familiarity to be able to correctly react to their partner's responses to get the intensity and timing of the stimulation just right. Too little stimulation - or reducing it too soon - and the experience is not so intense; but too much and/or for too long allows the passive partner to reach the 'tipping point', causing orgasm to occur too early. The real skill lies in knowing one's partner well enough to be able to keep them hovering almost on the very edge of orgasm, thereby maximizing the experience. Finally, and at a time of their choosing, the active partner once again slowly brings the other right up to the point of orgasm as before, but this time unexpectedly continues and/or slightly increases the stimulation for the few extra seconds needed to drive their partner into orgasm.

As the active partner needs to already be familiar with the passive partner's responses, this technique is more likely to succeed when used within fairly established relationships, rather than more casual 'one-off' encounters.

One experience of orgasm control is described in the section called "slow masturbation" in the popular book The Joy of Sex, but of course any method of stimulation (such as oral sex, sex toys or indeed slow penetration) can be used by the active partner, not just manual stimulation. The Joy of Sex was a ground-breaking sex manual by Alex Comfort, M.D., Ph. ... Oral sex consists of all the sexual activities that involve the use of the mouth, tongue, and possibly throat to stimulate genitalia. ... A sex toy is a term for any object or device that is primarily used in facilitating human sexual pleasure. ... Sexual penetration (as opposed to outercourse) typically involves the insertion of the penis into a bodily orifice. ...

Despite the use of light bondage, orgasm control is usually unconnected to BDSM. It is also different from the BDSM practice of orgasm denial, as the motive on the part of the active partner is the increased pleasure of the other, instead of the urge to dominate or torment them. A collar is a common symbol in BDSM. BDSM is any of a number of related patterns of human sexual behavior. ... Erotic sexual denial, also known as orgasm denial, is a sexual practice and a form of power exchange where a person is kept in the plateau phase of the human sexual response cycle for an extended length of time. ...

External links

• Locknkeep.com community site on this practice.